Welcome back to Transformational Tuesdays, where we talk all about transformation. And this week I thought we would do something slightly different. I want to share with you a story of what happened to me this past week, and how I used transformative thinking to get myself unstuck from a low-energy mood (which was impacting my work).
I call it “transforming out loud,” so that you can see the process and apply it to your own life next time you feel stuck!
I was feeling stuck…
Earlier this week, I was asked to help a good friend of mine on a project. I was totally honored to have been asked, and was excited about the project. My part of the project was pretty straightforward, but there were some things that were not my favorites to do. Even though they weren’t anything I couldn’t do, I got really stuck on them!
The way that I react when I’m stuck is I have really low energy and I sleep a lot.
And the longer that this dragged on, my brain started putting its 2 cents in.
Negative self-talk keeps you stuck
“You’ve got to get this done. And if you don’t do it right, you’re going to let this person down. Just go ahead and do it. Even if you’re running into these different things, and you don’t quite understand all the pieces — but don’t ask about them! And now you’ve gotten behind because you’re being lazy, and you haven’t gotten it done, and you’re waiting until the last minute, and you’re being a procrastinator.”
This was my brain talking to me. You can guess what it did to my energy — it just sent me down more and more.
Transformational skills kick in
After a couple of days of this, I just started asking myself my favorite question: “Why am I reacting this way?”
I realized that I was perpetuating my old patterns of being a victim in what I was doing. I knew that I had to be more proactive and talk to the other person about the parts of the project that weren’t clicking for me.
I decided I was going to spill the beans with the person and tell them that I was struggling with the assignment.
It was a huge relief
Immediately when I contacted the other person I felt a huge relief. And lo and behold, from that conversation, 3 amazing things happened:
- We came up with a better solution on how to tackle the job
- We had a great conversation that cleared the air. I felt so much lighter! And I immediately started having energy again.
- I questioned myself enough to pause and find out what was really going on.
And in case you’re wondering, almost immediately after this, I got refocused and got 80% of the project knocked out right away!
I felt like I was getting worried about the project for nothing.
You don’t have to stay stuck
Transformation doesn’t have to be complicated, like you just saw. Questioning why we are reacting in a certain way, and then choosing a different option, is a healthy way for us to move through the world. Transformation just means that we see ourselves growing as human beings in different situations.
You don’t have to stay stuck. You don’t have to stay with the same patterns. You can learn and then choose different ways.
Let’s explore some ways that we can make transformation happen in your life right now! I invite you to get on a 60-minute coaching call with me, no obligation. You can book a time right here!
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