Have you ever had someone in your life that really hurt, disappointed, let you down, made you cry or caused you pain? Of course. We’ve all had this experience and it’s painful for sure.

Our initial reaction might be disbelief, sadness, shock, or maybe we just wanna go all Carrie Underwood on their ass! (BTW – sooo not recommended!) We might point the finger (not the middle finger…well maybe) at this other person and blame them for how they did us wrong.  And rightfully so. We are hurt. And in that hurt, it’s so easy just to make it the other person’s fault. But, there is more to the story.

What if…this hurtful experience is really a gift in disguise that shakes us awake. A mirror that is shining back on the parts of our heart that still need healing.  I know, I know, I hate those damn mirrors too! It is not fun, and it means that we have to step into the responsibility of owning our own SH!T in the entanglement – remember it takes two to tango.

Plus, truthfully, the real person that we’re actually mad at, is ourselves.  We might have tolerated bad behavior, not spoken our truth, or set healthy boundaries and now we are experiences the fallout of some of those consequences. But don’t be too judgy or hard on yourself. Until we know better, most of us are simply operating on reactive survival patterns, and we’ll continue to attract these patterns into our lives until there is a resolution.

So we have a choice. We can keep up the blame game, or embrace the gift and wake up! It’s not easy, but absolutely worth it. And, it’s through these difficult life lessons, where real growth and awakening flourish.