I have been looking forward to this topic for a while, and I’m so excited to talk to you about it today!
This week on Transformational Tuesdays we’re talking about curiosity: specifically having a curiosity about life instead of a judgement or preconceived notion.
Being curious about life opens up so many possibilities, but it’s an active skill that we need to practice.
Let’s say that we are having a conversation with someone, especially if we’re in our business or we’re in a leadership role. A lot of times, our first reaction to something the other person says is a judgment, either about them or ourselves.
(Side note: this happens because we are human beings!)
When this judgment happens on ourselves — we can really be our harshest critic in life, can’t we? — what if instead of that judgment, we replaced it with curiosity?
We can ask ourselves questions like, “I wonder why I’m having that thought right now.” “Is that really the truth? Is that what’s really happening? Or am I just reacting or being triggered from something?”
We can do this with other people, too.
When somebody is reacting to you in a way that you first judge or perceive as negative, could you lean in a bit with curiosity and ask: “I wonder what’s going on with them, that they’re having that reaction?”
I know that’s not the natural or automatic thing to do. We judge by default based on the things in ourselves that we need to pay attention to.
So over the next week, start looking at life with curiosity.
“I wonder what… I wonder if… what if…”
Stop that automatic shift towards the negative and the judging.
Practicing that skill is part of our transformation, because it creates an awareness for how we can be thinking differently.
After all, isn’t that what transformation is? We could just go through life with blinders on and then we just stay the same. We get the same results, it’s the same thing day in and day out. And I can tell you from experience, when we stick in that groove, it can feel really heavy. It can feel daunting, going through the motions.
But with curiosity, we could expand and transform into the next levels of what we’re meant to be.
It doesn’t mean that everything will become easy-peasy, but it does make things more enjoyable. And I don’t know about you, but I think our time on this earth is minuscule, so we might as well enjoy it and do what we love. Be around the people we love, express our love, have fun with our work, and have some ease. That’s what it’s all about!
Have you ever considered your vulnerability an advantage?
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